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The power of now

How often do you find yourself worrying about what’s to come, stressing about the unknown, and anxiously awaiting the future? But if you astutely observe, we fret so much about the future, and then when we get to the future, it’s now. Life is made of nows, it’s always been about the “now”.

In our constant worry about what lies ahead, we often forget that the future eventually becomes the present. Each moment we live, from one now to the next, shapes our existence. Life, in its entirety, is a collection of these present moments — the nows — that we experience.
The beauty of existence lies in these nows. They are not merely fleeting instances but the very fabric that weaves together our journey. Each now offers us a chance to immerse ourselves fully in the present, to appreciate the subtle details of life that might otherwise pass unnoticed. It’s in these moments that we find clarity, where the past meets the future and converges into the present moment.

Embracing the now isn’t just about mindfulness; it’s a profound acknowledgment of our existence. It’s about living with intention and purpose, making the most of every opportunity that unfolds before us. Whether it’s a quiet moment of reflection, a joyous celebration, or a challenging decision, each now shapes our story and contributes to the tapestry of our lives. So, as we navigate the complexities of life, let us remember that the future we worry about is merely a collection of nows waiting to be lived. By honoring each moment, we honor ourselves and the journey we’re on. Life isn’t just about waiting for the future to arrive; it’s about embracing the nows that defines our existence.

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Self Trust?

Trust is a precious gift. It is something that should be earned and cherished. If we want to build strong and lasting relationships, we need to learn to trust ourselves and others.

This is a powerful question which everyone must always ask themselves, and it asks us to reflect on our own trustworthiness. It is quite easy to trust in others, but what is more difficult is to trust ourselves. We all have our own flaws and weaknesses, and it can be hard to believe that we are truly worthy of trust. And often times, we all make mistakes. But you should also remember that we are only humans, and one of the qualities of humans is to make mistakes from time to time as we aren’t perfect. Just because we make mistakes does not mean that we are not trustworthy. In fact, it is often our mistakes that teaches us the most about ourselves and about trust (and if it isn’t, i guess I’ll be fine believing it does).

If we want to be trusted by others, we first need to learn to trust ourselves. This means being honest with ourselves about our strengths and weaknesses, and it means being willing to forgive ourselves when we make mistakes. It also means being willing to put ourselves out there and be vulnerable, even when we are afraid of being hurt. We need to ask ourselves if we constantly act in accordance with our values and principles. If we keep our promises, follow through on commitments and act with integrity even when no one is watching. (The real you is not defined by the size of your office. The real you is defined by who you are when there’s no one watching).

It takes two to tango. Such is the case for trust as well. Trust is a two-way street. If we want to be trusted by others, we need to be willing to trust them in return. This means being open and honest with them, and it means being willing to give them the benefit of the doubt. It also means being willing to forgive them when they make mistakes. Trust is an essential part of any healthy relationship. It is the foundation on which all other relationships are built. If we want to have strong and lasting relationships, we need to learn to trust ourselves and others.

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Truth Hurts But Secret Kills

The phrase “Truth hurts but secret kills” emphasizes the destructive power of keeping secrets and the importance of honesty. Secrets can create a heavy burden on an individual’s mental and emotional state, leading to stress, anxiety, and even physical health problems.

While the truth can be difficult to hear and may cause discomfort, it is often the best course of action in the long run. Secrets can damage relationships and lead to a loss of trust between individuals. They can also lead to a sense of guilt or shame, and even escalate to more serious consequences if the secret is revealed.

It’s important to recognize that telling the truth requires courage, but it can also bring about positive change and growth. By acknowledging the truth and facing any consequences, individuals can move forward with a clear conscience and start to rebuild trust in relationships.

In conclusion, while the truth may be painful, it is essential to confront it instead of keeping secrets, which can lead to further damage. So, it is always better to be honest and transparent rather than keeping secrets that can cause more harm in the long run.

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Last Days Of Our Lives

We go through so much struggle for a life that even tho belongs to you, can be taken away from you at any point without your consent. Is this struggle worth it? So many people struggle with this debate in their mind. I won’t tell you that the struggle is worth it, but what I’ll tell you is, with patience, comes ease. The struggle might seem worthless, the dark days might seem never ending, but with standing strong and never giving up, i can tell you that these dark days, will be the good old times you’ll laugh about in the future. This piece reminds me of my favorite quote which proves nothing is permanent. “This too shall pass”.
Remember, it’s REAL till the day we die. If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to, someone that really understands what you’re going through, then you can always reach out to me. Author Of Pain will always be there, no matter what.

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FRENEMIES

Your enemies can always try, but they can never truly hurt you. They can always try, but they’ll never truly see you fall. Those creatures called friends, those are the ones you should be mindful of. Cause they’ll hurt you over and over and over again. They’ll eat with you, laugh with you, do everything with you, but behind your back, they’ll stab you over and over again because you gave them the chance to. Believing that everyone you love will hurt you is without doubt a lie, but believing the ones you love would never hurt you is a much bigger lie. Remember;
Sometimes the person you’re taking a bullet for, is actually the one pulling the trigger.

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Depression, Anxiety and Loneliness: Our Darkest Demons.

Have you ever been surrounded by people who loves you so much but yet you still feel so lonely. It’s true that you can feel the most alone in crowds of people, who is surrounding you is more important than how many. Yes, but you can still be with a few circle who mean the world to you, loves you and shows you care that has no limit but still yet you feel so lonely like you ain’t got no one. The thing about loneliness, depression, anxiety is that once it’s in you it hardly ever leaves. Once you feel you’re depressed or lonely it’s normal instinct for you to get close to people you love, people who loves you a lot and it’s the time you start to wear the biggest smile. For a second you might feel it’s working, you might think intimacy really is the solution to it all. But when the time comes, and these demons of ours comes back at us, it breaks us so bad and then we realize it never was the solution. It’s funny how the people who we see with the biggest smiles on their faces are the ones battling with the darkest of demons. What then is the true solution to depressions, anxiety and loneliness? Some opt in to talking to God, some addiction to drugs, alcohols, some therapy and many more. So back to the question, what then is the cure?
Seeing the smile I put on people’s faces, seeing people battling with these demons read my works and then feel a little happy, feel that someone out there truly understands how they feel, seeing someone drops an honest comment of how a piece of mine helped him battle his demons, those are the ways I battle with these demons, but it’s a never ending battle for these demons never truly die. We just have to keep standing strong, wearing the biggest smiles we can, and keep doing whatever is working for us, for we all have different ways of fighting this demons, as long as these ways doesn’t add to our hurt. Suicide should never be an option for suicide doesn’t take away your pains, instead it passes your pains to your loved ones. Keep fighting and never give up……………..

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Author of pain quotes

Do you know who you are? When you look at life and you talk about yours, do you feel proud? Are you leaving a mark or scared to make a bad impression? So you just go hide in the dark
Living and playing a part, knowing regret will come back tomorrow.
That’s what it does, ain’t it? Don’t know what we’re chasing,
But we all do it, just a part of life, I guess we’re all foolish,
Running after what we think will make us happy ’til it falls through.
And then we find out later it ain’t what we wanted
So we give up on it, then we pile the garbage
And we watch it grow and find a drug and numb it,
Til we hit the point that we can barely function.

Am I motivated?

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Author of pain quotes

We all got a choice to make. We could either carry the past on our shoulders or start over. But if you decide to go for the former, then you won’t be able to make much progress as when you decide to go with the latter. Carrying the past on your shoulders would always weigh you down, either good or bad. If its good, celebrate it and look for ways to be better, because if you feel your past is good and you hold onto it, not wanting to let go of it and start again, then you’ll always be at the same spot and there won’t be any progress in your life. And if its bad, see it as a lesson to learn from and start over avoiding the mistakes you made the previous time. The weight of the past is something that no one can carry on his shoulders especially when its a bad one. The thing about grief is that, you find a way to go over it, move past it, step over it, but that emptiness, it doesn’t ever goes away. So we all just have to find a way to start over, hit that reset button and go at it again. Remember the choice is yours, carry the past on your shoulders or start over, choose wisely.

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Read That Again!!!

You can’t change your friends, but you can change your friends. Yeah, that ain’t no mistake, you read it right. We all have friends, be it a lot or just few. Some we’re proud of, while some we not proud of. So if you got friends that you’re not proud of, or their behaviours and you’ve tried but failed to see that they change, it’s best you bring that friendship to an end and not try to force things to work well because an unhealthy friendship is unhealthy for you. So know that you can’t always change your friends, but you can change your friends. Still confusing???? Drop your questions in the comment section and ill reply you as soon as possible.

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SOFT COPY OF AUTHOR OF PAIN – THE JOURNAL: BE PATIENT AND TOUGH SOMEDAY THIS PAIN WILL BE USEFUL TO YOU.

The purpose behind this journal is to enlighten the general public on the importance of our lives. We live in a world where pain is inevitable, and these pains brings discomfort to our lives, and a lot of the times the end result is suicide. It’s a shame to us, that when we see our fellow brothers and sisters going through difficulty at some point in their lives, instead of helping them, we just laugh at them and use it to mock them. A lot of times we see this life as a competition, as a battle of the fittest which is why we don’t help others. The world is gradually coming to an end and it Is not right for us to end it with our own hands; the rate of suicide is rapidly increasing thus bringing the end to the world closer. Through the many stories, poems and articles from various writers across the world that seek to explore the crucial aspects of pains, I hope the world will begin to see people for what they truly are. It’s my prayers that the world will condemn suicide. The lives of each individual no matter how rich or poor, educated or uneducated, sane or insane are God’s gift to humanity and committing suicide isn’t a way out of any problem we face in this life. Committing suicide is a great sin in life, perhaps through writing, poetry and self expression, I and other great writers will successfully destroy this act that only brings more pains to your family and loved ones instead of ending yours.

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LONELINESS

Loneliness is not about having no one around you. You may have a large circle of friends and still feel lonely. It’s all about having people that care around you. Having the right person around you is the best way to avoid loneliness. So next time you want to go out there and make friends, keep in your mind that “Who is surrounding you is more important than how many”.

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Motivation

I’ve been doing this for more than a year now, and i put much time into this because I love what i do and I do what I love. When I first started, I never knew if people would want to listen or read my works but I was really amazed to see that alot of people actually loved what I do and that’s enough motivation to keep on going. When I write, I produce pains but the pains are not meant to cause you more pains but rather it’ll help you ease your pains. If poetry is a disease, I promise you I’m infected. The rhymes are my playground, watch me play with words. I put so much real life in this poetry, you think I’m making this up? Trust me, if the poems ain’t sharp and real they aren’t going to make the cut. I’m no teacher, but you’ll learn how to live with my words. I’m a different breed of poet, I know how to survive and never give up. If you want to come into my lane, you better know how to drive and even if you know how to, I suggest you buckle up if you want to come on this ride because it’s a tough ride. I love my lane even though it’s rough.
REAL POETRY

©AUTHOR OF PAIN

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Think twice before you bite on the hand that made you.

That’s Real.

The best way to live this life is by learning how to live this life. We as humans do make a lot of mistakes but making mistakes is nothing but the best thing that can happen to someone, because mistakes are made so we can learn from them. If we don’t make mistakes in this life then there are some things we may never learn about, things that we don’t get taught about in schools, rather we learn about them from our mistakes, the lessons of life. Mistakes are not supposed to make you feel bad about yourself, rather they are to make you improve, even losses are victories, but only when we learn from our mistakes. Behind every succesful business, man, woman or child, there is someone or some people who made it possible. No single person can be succesful without the help of someone or group of people. The greatest mistake we as humans can make is to forget or bite on the hand that made us, those who were there with us when we had nothing and guided us to become who we are, those are the people we should never forget after achieving our dreams.

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Does asking others for help makes you weak?

Sometimes I feel like asking for help from people and making them conscious about the traumas surrounding you makes them see you as weak, they see people who don’t ask for help and people who are always smiling as strong. When someone has this mindset, it is humane for the person to stop asking others for help and try to face his demons alone, but truly that’s the real weakness. You pretending you don’t need help or someone to talk to is the real weakness and you might not notice it till it becomes too late. But it’s also true that we are not to ask for help from everyone, not everyone cares enough for you to give you a solution that will be best for you, sometimes it’s even best we talk to people we don’t know, because there is a big difference between your friends and your friends who really care and are able to stand with you no matter what you’re going through. I had alot of people that I could always confide in and talk to, but I noticed that not all of them really cared. Some just saw me as someone who doesn’t like to be happy, someone who loves pain, and they were not ready to stand by me, gone are the days when I fought for friendships, now I know those who care and those who doesn’t. In other to stay strong, it is compulsory we ask for help from others, but know who you talk to. If you feel like none of your friends will be willing to listen to you, then it’s best you talk to others you don’t know and there are lot of ways doing that. You can meet someone for the first and only time in your life, but the advice that person gives you, if followed will lead you to greater places through out your life. You can meet and talk to someone you don’t know on social medias, you can create a form asking for help and share it, no one will know you created the questions in the form, but you get your answers at the end.
Having someone you can talk to at anytime, about your day, or anything about yourself without feeling like you are being clingy or boring is one of the greatest feelings ever.
– AUTHOR OF PAIN

©REAL POETRY